This Emotional Life "Family, Friends & Lovers" on PBS World

This Emotional Life "Family, Friends & Lovers" on PBS World

Sat, 08/14/2010 - 8:00pm - 10:00pm

Pictured: Philip and Monica Pitts, who are featured in the film.



Credit: THIS EMOTIONAL LIFE/Vulcan Productions

Professor Daniel Gilbert's explores the human struggle for happiness.

With the New Year, as millions of Americans struggle to find more meaning in their lives, WXXI is pleased to present Harvard psychologist and best-selling author of Stumbling on Happiness, Professor Daniel Gilbert’s production – This Emotional Life. Part 1 of this three-part documentary encores Saturday, August 14 at 8 p.m. on PBS World (cable 524/DT21.2), and examines why people find happiness to be such an elusive goal.

Episode 1: Family, Friends & Lovers
The first episode looks at the importance of relationships and why they are central to our emotional well-being. What are the cognitive and neurological processes underpinning our everyday interactions, and can they help us to understand why some relationships flourish and others fail? We meet a young boy adopted from a Russian orphanage, whose story illustrates how a lack of attachment in infancy fundamentally shapes his ability to build relationships for years to come. We meet the young parents of newborn twins; a couple in therapy for a troubled marriage; a teenager who was bullied with tragic consequences; two women grappling with the stress of workplace conflicts; and other characters — all to better understand the importance of social connections and relationships.
This Emotional Life unfolds across three two-hour episodes, exploring the nature of the social relationships that are the key to our human happiness (Family, Friends & Lovers); the obstacles to happiness, negative emotions, which we can’t live with and can’t live without (Facing Our Fears); and the sometimes misguided pursuit of happiness itself (Rethinking Happiness). The programs are produced by Kunhardt McGee Productions. Each episode weaves together the compelling personal stories of ordinary people and the latest in brain science research, along with revealing comments from celebrities such as Chevy Chase, Larry David, Elizabeth Gilbert, Alanis Morissette, Katie Couric and Richard Gere.  
Professor Gilbert, whose research examines why people so often mis-predict what will make them happy, says, “Science has revealed three important facts about happiness: You can’t be happy alone; you can’t be happy all the time; you can be happier than you are. Our three shows examine each of these three facts.” 
The three episodes trace our relationships and what science reveals about them beginning with our very first one, the parent-child relationship, and how our connections to others impact our happiness.

Episode 2: Facing Our Fears
In the second episode, we look at emotions that are commonly regarded as obstacles to happiness — such as anger, fear, anxiety and despair. Why do we have these emotions and how can we best manage them? Our brains are designed for survival, and the negative emotions they create are vital to that mission. But those negative emotions can spiral out of control with debilitating effects. We meet a woman whose inability to control her temper is jeopardizing her relationships; a college student whose fear of flying is limiting her life; and a teenager on the eve of attending college who is struggling to overcome clinical depression. We also meet veterans with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder and follow their journeys to find effective treatment. Across the episode, science reminds us that we are of two minds — a rational brain that’s relatively new and an emotional brain that’s older than time. Sometimes, emotion overwhelms reason, sometimes reason outwits emotion, and it is the endless struggle that makes our lives so painful, so joyous, and so interesting.

Episode 3: Rethinking Happiness
Finally, the last episode explores happiness. It is so critical to our well-being and, yet, it remains such an elusive goal for many of us. What is it, why is it important and how can we attain more of it? We meet individuals facing major turning points in their lives — a job loss, a cancer diagnosis, the death of a child, an accident — as well as those facing more common struggles. We learn from the latest research that we often incorrectly predict what will bring us greater happiness, leading us to look for it in the wrong places. As the study of behavior turns more toward positive emotions, we explore the latest research on the activities and qualities that foster them, such as meditation, compassion, forgiveness and altruism. We also share the remarkable stories of resilient individuals whom scientists are studying in order to learn more about us all, including a man who overcame an abusive childhood to become a renowned surgeon and a Vietnam veteran who survived torture, solitary confinement and seven years as a POW, yet emerged emotionally unscathed. Understanding why some people have the ability to bounce back after disaster strikes, while others do not, sheds light on how all of us can lead happier, more fulfilling lives. The film ends by coming full circle to the understanding that it is the quality of our relationships — with friends, family and the larger community — that ultimately defines our happiness.




Phil and Monica

I thought this couple was great and it gave me hope for the future. Are they still together? I hope so they were amazing, and honest..Thank you for sharing.

phill and monica

This show was amazing . I laugh and cried. And when I seen phill and monica I had hope again they are an amazing couple with beautiful children . after being split up with my husband for a couple months we've reconsidered and is now working things out . Thank you Monica and phill. Are they still together ?